India is a great land of diversity. The diversity not only exist in cliched field of different states, different origins, languages and cultural backgrounds but also in our mindsets. Despite the country witnessing spectacular changes in almost every field what refuses to change is the mentality towards women and mentality of women for women. Here being single after 28 years is still a crime. Collegues and friends from almost all backgrounds hound you with questions and outlook which may date back some 2000 years. For a man it is Ok to remain single till thirties but for a woman she is deemed to be doomed after 30.She is just not allowed to think differently. Many of my friends succumed to the wordly pressures of marriage children and Oh my God .........the mother in law. The next 5 years is full of cribs.......one of the reasons was that they gave in to societal norms and did not even bother to analyse whether they really wanted it? Once you cross 25 and don't seem to like anyone , let your parents find a groom whom you hardly know and before you have really lived life for yourself you live for husband, children and in laws .
I obviously defied these rules and norms and while most of colleagues and some friends were completely hopeless about my future, I inturn decided to enjoy being single and achieved what I could not have done if married purely because of the yoke of responsibilities. Last 3 years being Single has been a celebration. Is this what my life is going to be ? Don't know , cannot say............But I do know this much till I meet the right guy with whom I really want to spend my life, this is what it is going to be.
The only reason is that why should anyone (especially women) choke themselves and compromise for anyone because they have passed the age what our society deems to be the right age.
I obviously defied these rules and norms and while most of colleagues and some friends were completely hopeless about my future, I inturn decided to enjoy being single and achieved what I could not have done if married purely because of the yoke of responsibilities. Last 3 years being Single has been a celebration. Is this what my life is going to be ? Don't know , cannot say............But I do know this much till I meet the right guy with whom I really want to spend my life, this is what it is going to be.
The only reason is that why should anyone (especially women) choke themselves and compromise for anyone because they have passed the age what our society deems to be the right age.
